Being a black man is not always easy. Being a black gay man, now that is hard. I was always the oddball growing up, and even now at 25, I still find it hard to relate to other men, black, gay, or both. I mean why is it that I have to express one part of my identity at the expense of another? And this conflict in my identity has force me to exile myself, romantically and sexually. Sometimes I feel lost and confused.